The Goal: A Happy Marriage Forever
Talk to someone who is about to get married and although they think they have found that one true love the statistics for a long and happy marriage are not in their favor. Today 51% of all first marriages end in divorce. A single person looking for a mate will ask the question, “How many frogs do I have to kiss before I find my Prince or Princess?” A lot fewer if you use birth order in your search. Learn how to understand your birth order to find your perfect match. Let’s go.
Shakespeare coined the phase, Love is Blind, and that is the way most people search to find a mate, but if you understand birth order you will enter all relationships knowing much more about the other person than just their name.
What is a Soul Mate?
How many times have you heard someone say they are looking for their Soul Mate? Just what is a Soul Mate? The classic meaning of Soul Mate came from Greek mythology. The story is our ancestors had 2 heads and 4 arms. They offended a god who punished them by splitting them in half.
This was the creation of humans. Now we are condemned to spend the rest of our lives looking for the other half, our Soul Mate. The more modern definition from the dictionary says “One of Two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity”.
Compared to the Greeks this is a much easier goal to reach. Others view the term Soul Mate differently, if you believe in reincarnation or personal karmic growth. Twin Flames are two people that share the same soul, while other Soul Mates are people that come into your life to clear up karma or to finish unfinished business. Anyway you see it, Soul Mates are there for a reason, birth order may be the tool to find yours.
Birth Orders and Love at First Sight
Type one
There appear to be two kinds of “Love at First Sight”. The first is when you meet someone with you exact same birth order. You are now seeing yourself in their reflection. It is another YOU and you understand each other so well. The problem is that there can only be one image in a mirror at a time so someone must step out of the picture.
Of course, you can share and divide up the authority in the relationship. The recent marriage of Prince William and Kate Middleton is just this type of “Love at First Sight” as both are first borns. At the wedding, or maybe before, Prince Harry and Pippa Middleton made a similar connection as both are second borns. Before getting in to relationship understand birth order to find your perfect match.
Type two
The second kind of “Love at First Sight” is when you meet someone that matches exactly by number and gender one of the siblings in your family. This works because you have had at least 16 years to understand this other birth order. Now when you see this birth order in another person the unexpected is not there.
A perfect example of this type of love is George H.W. Bush and Barbara. Their first meeting was at a college dance and at least one of them knew they were meant for each other. George is a number two with a younger sister, a number three. Barbara is a number three with an older brother, a number two. Barbara loves telling this story to her grandchildren just to get their reactions.
Is Age Important?
The age of your partner does not seem to have the influence that you might think. This may be why the May-December marriages, a term used to describe two people that are many years apart in age, are successful. Charlie Chaplin and Oona O’Neill were both Two/Only double birth orders.
They were 36yrs apart in age but that didn’t stop them from raising eight children and staying together until Charlie died at age eighty- eight. Actress Susan Sarandon is fourteen years older than her companion, Tim Robbins. He is a fourth-born with a sister in the number one position. Susan is a firstborn that has many younger brothers one in the fourth position, another match.
Here are a few more examples of May December couples Bing Crosby and Kathryn Grandstaff 30 years apart John Derek and Bo (Mary Collins) 30 years apart Rodney Dangerfield and Joan Child 31 years apart Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher 15 years apart.
Can Only Children Find A Birth Order Match?
This birth order theory also works for Only children. This is because Onlies come in many flavors. They are the merging of the birth orders of their parents. The person with an Only birth order will be attracted to a person that shares the same birth order as one of their parents. They really have two options one for each parent’s birth order.
Double Birth Orders and Partners
Matching double birth orders is really very tricky. Double birth orders occur when there are 4 or more years of spacing between siblings or groups of siblings. Find out more about this in my book, Life’s Fingerprint. Prince Charles a firstborn and Princess Di a Three/One birth order is the couple we all saw in action and if you understood birth order would know why this union was difficult.
Princess Di was really two people, as a number One she wanted to be in charge. As a sensitive Third born she saw the suffering in the world and wanted to help. We saw her two personalities throughout her life and it made great press. With a double birth order you get two personalities. Before getting in to relationship understand birth order to find your perfect match.
Changing Birth Orders with the Death of a Sibling
When a sibling dies that is older than you, everyone in the family moves up in birth order. You still have your original birth order but you are expected to act like your new birth order. This is what happened to Arnold Schwarzenegger.
He began life as a second born with an older brother. When his brother died in an auto accident Arnold moved up to the Only position. If we look at his life, he went from body builder to student to actor to Governor of California.
Was he just acting the part of an Only being in charge and making his own rules? When he met Maria Shriver another second born in 1977 at a charity tennis tournament, the “love a first sight” may have been in play but in the 25 years of marriage a different person may have emerged and the love died.
A Match for Everyone
There is a perfect match for everyone if you know your “True” birth order and the birth order of your chosen one. Double birth orders add another element to your partner, you get two for the price of one, so don’t rely on just your number of birth. You can see all the different birth order combinations and find your magic number in my book, Life’s Fingerprint.