Tom has been in the news again and unfortunately it was about his personal life and his divorce from Katie Holmes. This was his third marriage and it may be time to take a look at his and his former wife’s birth orders to understand his marriages.
Tom’s Birth Order
Tom was born July 3, 1962 the third and only boy in his family. Everyone was close in age:
| Lee Ann | #1 | 1959 |
| Marian | #2 | 1961 |
| Tom | #3 | 1962 |
| Cass | #4 | 1963 |
Being the only boy Tom would be expected to act like a firstborn. He was also nurtured by his sisters something he would look for in a mate. He is still close to his sisters and he has said he could live with any of them. His need to act like a firstborn was something he may have felt necessary as his single mother raised the family.
Tom was twelve years old when his mother divorced. This attempt to be the man of the house was only an act as his number three birth order makes him a very sensitive person and not one to give orders. Threes see the world and act very differently than a firstborn.
Third borns are very open to new ideas and will follow them with a religious zeal. This could be the case with his adoption of Scientology. His first wife Mimi Rogers said Tom was thinking of becoming a monk. When he was a student at a Franciscan seminary he aspired to become a Catholic priest.
This fits perfectly with the world view of a number three and their outreach to humanity. Laughing on the outside but crying on the inside would be Tom’s way of coping. He will try not to show he has been hurt but his sensitivity is just below the surface. His ideal match would be a #1, #2 or #4 that had a #3 brother, which is his birth order.
Wife #1 Mimi Rogers
Mimi was born in 1952 making her six years older than Tom. She is a firstborn with a younger brother. This match was good for Tom as Mimi matched the birth order of his older sister Lee Ann also a firstborn.
Unfortunately Mimi did not have a number three brother so this marriage was difficult for her to understand Tom. She is credited for introducing Tom to Scientology. Their marriage lasted three years.
Wife #2 Nicole Kidman
Nicole was born in 1967, the older of two girls. Her sister Antonia was born three years later in 1970. This makes the second firstborn that Tom married, he again matched the childhood birth order of his older sister Lee Ann. Maybe he had the feeling that Nicole would be taking care of him like his older sister.
The problem here is that Nicole had no brothers in her family and no one in the third birth order position. This would have made it difficult for her to understand Tom. This marriage lasted 11 years and they adopted two children.
It was during this time that rumors circulated that the marriage was a cover up for Tom’s homosexuality. They successfully sued the The Star on this issue. Maybe his posing like a dominate first born but acting like a sensitive thridborn gave the wrong impression?
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Wife #3 Katie Holmes
Katie was born in 1978 the fifth and last child in her family. She carries a double birth order since there is a five year gap between the first three children and the last two. This is what the birth orders look like in her family.
Katie becomes a #1/2 Double Birth order as the fifth born starts the birth order sequence again. You might say a #5 is a gentle # 1. She gains the #2 birth order as she is the second one in the second group of children. A person with this type of Double Birth order vacillates between the two personalities.
Giving orders like a firstborn but then not wanting to be told what to do like a second born. You might say that Tom saw his two older sisters in Katie. She may have seen Tom as she did her older brother Martin. Martin like Tom is a third born with two older sisters.
Tom matches her family birth order in number and gender perfectly. This was the first marriage for Tom to someone who could really understand him. Maybe that is why he was so excited, jumping on Oprah’s couch when he announced his marriage to Katie.
He had finally found his “soul” mate, but did he? Unfortunately Katie carries two birth orders so Tom would never be sure who she was. He was totally blindsided when served with divorce papers. This marriage lasted six years.
The Future Mrs. Cruise
I hope this blog information gets to Tom so that his next marriage will be his last. He almost got it right this time so next time should be the charm. As a reader check your own birth order and that of your mate or significant other and see if you have a perfect match.