Prince Harry and Meghan Markle: Their Birth Orders

The British Royal family is in the news with the upcoming marriage of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle.  The mystery of attraction and the enduring stability of a marriage or relationship has eluded men and women from the beginning of time.  Not anymore. By using birth order theory, we can reveal the answer to this question. Prepare to be enlightened.

Love at First Sight

Is there such a thing as love at first sight?  The answer is yes.  Using birth order we find there are two types. The first one is the most exciting, when you meet someone with your exact same birth order.  You see life the same and react to others in a similar manner.

In a sense, you are seeing yourself in a mirror. The attraction is intense. The problem begins when you both want to occupy the same space.  There can only be one image in the mirror at a time.  This strong initial attraction can become a lifetime commitment as soon as the two people decide who is the one that will be in the mirror, and learn to give and take in the relationship.

The second type of love at first sight is when you meet someone with the exact birth order position of one of your siblings.  Gender makes a difference, it must be an exact match for birth order and gender. If the gender is different then you see the person in the light of a different gender.  This type of love at first sight is not as exciting as the first type, but is comfortable and long lasting.

Prince Harry a Second Born

Prince Harry is the second born.  As a child his brother was referred to as the heir and Harry the spare. The Second born is sometimes referred to as the middle child, this only applies if there are three children. In reality, a second child’s personality does not need a third child to develop.

The second child wants to be as different as he can be from his older sibling.This is the child that you don’t tell what to do. He is usually more athletic than his older sibling who would be the better student. At Eton College, Harry’s former teachers said he was a weak student but excelled in sports, particularly polo and rugby.

After school he entered the Royal Military Academy becoming an accomplished Apache helicopter pilot. On the personal side, he has earned a reputation for being rebellious having the press label him a “wild child”. During a holiday in Las Vegas he was photographed naked playing strip billiards. Marrying an American woman, and one of mixed- race, is just another way this second born is showing that he is different from his older brother.

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Harry’s Girls Friends

It has been reported that Harry has had two significant relationships. The first was Chelsy Davy from South Africa, this lasted for five years. She was quite an athlete and her birth order was the same as Harry’s, a number two.

This would have been a natural love at first sight for both of them. Obviously they never worked out who would be the one image in the mirror.  Harry had a shorter relationship with Cressida Bonas of only two years. She was from England and of a royal lineage.

She was the fifth of the five siblings she lived with.  There is a four-year gap between Cressida and her next oldest sibling.  This gives her the Double birth order of a five/only.  Birth order numbers repeat after number four so a five is much like a number one but a little less pushy.

She gets the Only birth order because of the time she spent at home while her older siblings were at school. Her relationship with Harry was almost the other type of love at first sight. Harry does have a firstborn brother, but Cressida has a second born sister. Not a perfect match for either of them.

Meghan Markle

Harry is now engaged to Meghan Markle. Meghan has a Double birth order. She has two older siblings 12 and 15 years her senior. This makes her a Third born but because of the large gap in age from her older siblings she also gets the Only birth order.

She interacted with her older siblings while she was growing up but lived in a different household. The Only/Three birth order gives her multiple characteristics. The Only side gives her self-confidence and a much more adult personality than Harry.

Her three side gives her an ability to read people and situations. You might say she can easily manipulate people with this very strong but subtle double birth order. She likes to be center stage and she usually gets what she wants. Her next older sibling is a boy and makes an exact birth order match with Harry.

Harry and Meghan

Harry must be fascinated by Meghan as he has no idea how someone with an Only/Three birth order behaves. He had no girls in his family and no one in the three position. He cannot possibly understand her and that may be why he is so attracted to her. Meghan has a brother in the number two position, this allows her to understand Harry. This gives her an advantage. It will take Harry some time to unmask Meghan’s real personality.

Princess Diana

All birth order combinations can work; some just take more work. Understanding your spouse is easier if you have grown up with a sibling of the same birth order. For Harry, this is going to be difficult, he has no sisters and no third sibling. He may never understand Meghan.

For her, the prize, her Prince, may be difficult to control or manipulate. If she tries to tell Harry what to do, it may be the end of the marriage. Having an older brother that is also a number two will be very helpful to her. For Harry, he will be marrying two people, an Only and a Three. This should make things interesting and should keep both Harry and Meghan at the top of their game.

Update 1-14-2019